The Characters of Christmas and the Classroom.
While we put on quite a show at Christmas, full of cheer, jollity and far too much food there is, in virtually all families, an underlying tension rooted in the rituals of our own childhood Christmases. Christmas has become like Disney. It is all about the kids. So parents and grandparents, Auntie Hilda and Great Uncle Sid, put on this performance every year. Even when the kids grow up, it is still all about the kids. All about the differences between your nostalgic, romantic Christmas as a kid and your wife’s Christmas as a kid. Or all about the Christmas you’d like to have had as a kid, but never did.
Media, advertising and commerce bombard us with images of the perfect Christmas; these images combine with our episodic memories of the past and we try – frantically and obsessively at times – to recreate the perfect feeling of the idea of Christmas for our families. Behind the scenes there are spinning plates, arguments, unspoken tension; perhaps a snatched snog in the corner of the kitchen if you’re lucky.
This is all rather similar in the modern school classroom. The teacher tries to conjure up an atmosphere of collective learning, while in reality there are lots of different people, all with very different prior attainment, interests, capabilities, family cultures and expectations; and perceptions of what the hell they are doing in that room at that time with that teacher.
What Christmas and the Classroom have most in common is performance. Both are a show; a mirage; a mask on the surface of the hidden, existential darkness.
To demonstrate this tension I’m going to create some paired Christmas Characters and their Year 6 classroom counterparts:
Dad (47) / Teacher
Dad likes to prepare the Turkey and all the trimmings. This is a big project which requires a lot of planning, organisation and prior knowledge. He believes in cultural inheritance and doing things properly. Once he has prepared and cooked everything from scratch, sourced several bottles of Claret, port and twenty tonnes of Stilton he wants to sit down at the table. There he wants to eat a lot, drink even more; he doesn’t want to listen to any ill thought out bigoted bollocks extracted straight from yesterday’s Daily Mail. He doesn’t want to take any responsibility for the carnage he has created in the kitchen, he just wants to sit, drink and enjoy a fun filled family Christmas without any washing up, tidying or further nagging. Oh, and he wants to be listened to. A lot.
The teacher wants to be appreciated for all his planning, organisation, experience and prior knowledge. He wishes to share his insight and wisdom in the classroom. He sources the best resources to enable this. Once he has unveiled his wisdom, orated, performed, provoked and stimulated he wants everyone to work independently, calmly and happily and to – occasionally – revel in the humour and spontaneity of the classroom. He refuses to accept any responsibility for the negative behaviour of his class – or their failure to learn anything from him – because he has read lots of books and spends too much time reading blogs on Edutwitter! He strongly believes that anything he does cannot override the complex and varied histories of the myriad characters in his class; that his job is to spark interest, impart knowledge and develop skills. If he wanted to be a social worker or psychologist he’d have trained to be one.
Mum (48) / Headteacher
Mum is quite happy to delegate some sub-responsibility for Christmas to Dad but she knows that she is in charge. Behind the scenes she plans, shops, cleans, cooks and does loads of other shit no one thanks her for or recognises that she does. She does, however, have a strange penchant for window dressing and makes a real fuss over how everything looks and could be perceived by others. She resents the fact that Dad gets all the glory for being a much better cook than she is, while he appears to have a complete disregard for all other (far more time consuming) household chores which always go completely unappreciated.
The Headteacher happily delegates some sub-responsibilities to others, particularly things she isn’t very good at! She does work very hard behind the scenes, though she frequently seems to be busy at being busy without much to show for it (other than a well run and happy school, which is of course way more important than anyone ever realises at the time). She is a little bit obsessed about how the books and displays look and bangs on about them all the time, because these things are easy to spot, measure and control. She quietly resents the fact that her teachers are much more popular than she is.
Maternal Granny M (76) / Ofsted Inspector
Granny M is frankly fairly terrifying. If her (several) glass(es) of fizz is/are not supplied at 12 noon prompt, her face looks like an emaciated old bulldog being stung by a hornet. Her five hour hairdo is perfectly coiffured into a structure more complex than the London Underground system. She is very quick to judge. She reluctantly compliments Dad on his excellent Turkey feast but then ruins it by commenting on all the other things he’s fucked up that year. Her lipstick appears to be everywhere it shouldn’t. She talks for hours but says nothing and spends a lot of time tutting about the extent of the materialism showered upon the children.
The Ofsted inspector is an incredibly well presented lady: all style and no substance. If her demands are not met instantly she has the most terrifying facial expression imaginable. She is quick to judge. She offers feint praise, but then twists the knife. Her influence is pervasive and rather debilitating. She is full of good intent but her implementation seems so laboured. Her impact leaves a slight bad taste in your mouth!
Paternal Granny P (78) / Teaching assistant
Granny P loves the kids. Unconditionally. And a bit too much. She only sees the good in them and never the lurking, subliminal bastard. She showers them with praise and shitloads of chocolate. When not over-indulging the kids she quotes propaganda from the Daily Mail. She is full of praise for her son’s culinary efforts and becomes very competitive and territorial with anyone who seeks to control or undermine him better than she does.
The teaching assistant loves the kids. She is properly down wiv ver kids. She loves the opportunity to stick star stickers in their books and use loads of multi-coloured pens. Sometimes, when supporting a task in Science or History, she can be prone to sharing her own bigoted and deluded misconceptions with the kids, just to ensure the Conservative party remains in existence long past its sell by date. If anyone challenges her, her class or her teacher she becomes very territorial and defensive.
Maternal Grandpa (76) / Chair of Governors
Grandpa used to be an accountant. He religiously reads the financial times and misses it on Christmas day. He shuffles awkwardly about the house not quite understanding the modern Christmas. He is a stickler for detail and tradition and ensures everyone (over 12) goes to midnight mass.
The chair of governors can’t really keep up with the ever changing school initiatives and shifts of emphasis. He hates the jargon and has no idea whether his deep dive learning style character education was ever fully impactful before growth mindset was uninvented. Runs a tight ship financially, while otherwise, he spends a lot of time looking rather confused.
Grumpy Aunt Mildred (68) / Mary
Aunt Mildred has never married and doesn’t really like people, so Christmas family gatherings are a bit of a challenge for her. She loves horses, dogs and the countryside.
Mary is a very quiet girl in class. She struggles academically and doesn’t fit in to any of the friendship groups at school. She has a habit of making rather forthright statements, awash with a healthy dose of social ineptitude. The highlight of her week is when she gets to clean out the school Guinea pig cage every Friday afternoon.
Mad Cousin Mark (43) / Mark
Mark is an artist; a drinker and very anti-establishment. His mother died when he was six years old and he is the youngest of five children. After a long period of rebellion, drifting, travelling and shed loads of drugs he finally settled into a ramshackle, isolated cottage on the Hartland peninsula in North Devon. He loves winding up the wider family at Christmas whilst glugging away at the Claret. He is a bad influence on Dad at the dinner table and both hilarious and terrifying in equal measure during the annual charade of charades.
In class, aged 11, Mark was late, untidy and showed very little interest in conforming to school expectations. Detentions, missed breaks and a chair outside the headteacher’s office were water off a duck’s back to him. He was always engaged in (rare) art lessons and was a star turn as Scrooge in the Christmas play.
Cool cousin Madison (27) / Madison
Maddie works in London. No one really knows what she does. But her job fuels her extensive fashion and cocktail budget. She always looks amazing. On Christmas day she looks divine and soaks up bucketfuls of attention from the men. The younger girls want to be her.
In Year 6, Madison had her ears pierced and experimented with subtle amounts of make up. The other girls were wary of her but she was very popular with the boys. In class she was quietly compliant and achieved well.
Neice Harriet (32) / Hattie
Harriet has two young children Emily (3) and Bertie (1). She is exhausted and dotes on them. Christmas is a lovely time for her as her wider family entertain and help out with the kids. She has a glass of wine at lunch and falls asleep on the sofa in the afternoon. Her life consists of coffee mornings, toddler groups and horses. Endless freaking horses.
Hattie is a helper in class. Always smiling, always busy, always popular. Busy doing. But is she learning anything?
Dave (her husband, 34) / Dave
Dave is a computer programmer with a degree and PhD in Maths. He has a pretty whizzkid job with one of the big city banks. Harriet and the kids have humanised him a little, so he can quietly enjoy a big family Christmas. However, his patience is tested by Granny M asking endless questions about his job and never actually listening to his careful, explanatory answers.
In Year 6, Dave is bored. The bought in maths mastery scheme goes way too slowly for him. His teachers keep harping on about his arrogance and lack of collaborative skills. He justs wants to do maths. Proper maths. Not box tick national comparison SATs maths. Apparently he has no imagination in English. He resents school and his teachers and can’t wait to escape the stultifying primary classroom.
Nephew Ed (30) / Edward
Ed is a rugby player. A big strapping, strong hulk of a man. He eats twice the amount of anyone else around the table. And drinks twice the amount too, without any tangible effect. He is a lovely guy; affable, attentive, polite.
Ed is a key leader in Lions class (Year 6). Popular with the boys, girls and teachers, he is highly dependable. He wishes there was more PE at school but after school running club and weekend rugby at his local club just about channel his physical energy.
Susma (28) – Ed’s wife / Susma
Susma is Nepalese and a qualified pharmacist. She is a Hindu but loves to be part of a big family Christmas. She radiates warmth and kindness and is charm, attentiveness and politeness personified.
Susma moved to England aged 8 when her father – a Gurkha – was posted over here. In Nepal, she was used to classes of 80 children in very simple buildings with no technology. By Year 6 she was fluent in English and worked diligently, patiently and independently at all times. She achieved well and went on to study all three sciences at A level with Maths before embarking upon her Pharmacy degree and PhD in Biopharmaceutics.
Tom (21) / Tom
Tom is carrying out his undergraduate placement year in the chemical industry. He spent Christmas Eve in the pub, getting in at 4am, and has the mother of all hangovers today. His younger cousins and siblings are doing their best to ruin his peace. When Granny M tires of quizzing Dave about computer programming she moves on to Tom’s fresh insight into structure elucidation using mass spectrometry and nuclear magnetic resonance spectroscopy. He is loving “doing” real science with “real” scientists in industry and is not missing men in beige suits drone on about deriving physical chemistry equations from first principles in soulless lecture theatres.
Tom is one of the more able boys in Year 6. Considering his future pathway, it is interesting that he enjoyed history, geography, art and maths much more than the formulaic and predictable science lessons in school.
Becky (19) / Becky
Becky has just completed her first term reading Philosophy in Edinburgh. Despite her drunken night out with Tom in the pub, she can talk. For hours and hours. About all sorts of heavy shit. Her intellectual curiosity is exhausting. And the anti-monarchy rant she has just before the Queen at 3pm unleashes Fire and Brimstone from Grandpa and both Grannies – triggering a rare moment of harmony between the elder in laws and out laws.
At school Becky was a voracious reader. She read books all day, every day. In maths lessons, science lessons, PE lessons, lunchtime. She read books. All day long.
Luke (17) / Luke
Luke has discovered white wine. He tries to out drink Ed the Rugby player. This doesn’t end well. At school, Luke is doing a random selection A levels and BTECs. It is starting to dawn on him that his grade 9 in Fortnite at GCSE wasn’t much use.
In Year 6, Luke was what some might describe as “a typical boy.” Focussed and capable in maths lessons; sporty and active; never read a book. Ever. English and “academics” not really his thing.
Katie (15) / Katie
Katie has discovered opinions. No one has ever had them before. Alarmingly, for one so young and so bright her opinions are not of the usual socialist, eco-warrior type but of the vile, Faragist, racist polemic type. She is absolutely insufferable all Christmas day long. Granny P loves her. No one else does.
In Year 6 Katie was chair of the pupil council. Not because she was the kindest and most organised pupil in the school, but because she rigged the voting system and manipulated all the teachers. And everyone, even the headteacher, was terrified of her. Ridiculously high IQ.
Connor (13) / Connor
Connor doesn’t speak all day. Despite it being Christmas Day, he still manages to cram in his usual 10 hours of Fortnite.
At school Connor has Late night Fortnite eyes. He doesn’t do any work and is tired all the time. When he grows up he wants to be a You Tuber.
Chardonnay (11) / Chardonnay
Chardonnay spends all day extracting make up and fashion tips from Madison.
Chardonnay spends all day at school thinking about fashion, make up and when she is next going to see her super cool grown up cousin Madison.
Maisie (9) / Maisie
Maisie is loving Christmas day. She enjoys helping Dad with the cooking, Mum with laying the table, Harriet with her young cousins. She is a sweet, lovely, innocent, pre-adolescent girl who still loves Christmas despite cousin Chardonnay telling her Santa doesn’t exist.
Maisie is classroom compliance personified. She would walk the plank if her teacher told her to.
Ben (7) / Ben
Ben makes a lot of noise. He has broken three radio controlled helicopters. It is only 9am.
Ben makes a lot of noise at school. Especially when he is moved down to blue on the behaviour chart. Again.
Oscar (5) / Oscar
Oscar is building Star wars Lego with admirable patience for a boy of his age.
Oscar has told Miss Bolland, his reception teacher, that he is going to live on Mars when he grows up.
Emily (3) / Emily
Emily is subliminally storing the elaborate, disneyfied, commercial hellfest of Christmas into her episodic memory for the first time.
Emily is ridiculously happy. And a little bit emotional too.
Bertie (1) / Bertie
Bertie doesn’t have a fucking clue what is going on. So Dad is somewhat bewildered as to why Mum and Granny P have spent over £400 (combined) on his first Christmas.
Bertie isn’t at school yet. But if the neotrads at the DfE have their way he’ll be doing his preschool phonics check in the new year.
So Christmas, like the classroom, can be a bit of a performance – with all of us players. Of course it can be joyful, of course it can be full of love, of course it can be the heart warming best of humanity. Yet, scratch the surface of the celebrations family pack; of the Waitrose mini mince pie multi-pack; of the misery of the Eastenders Christmas special; of Angela Rippon tap dancing; of George Bailey and Clarence; of Oh come let us adore him; of shaking the vicar’s hand; of smiling politely while Granny M or Granny P spouts some alien thoughts; of the piles of plastic throwaway presents; of smartphones assembled in sweat shops and there is tension, the tension of the modern world; the tension of how the hell did we make the simple joy of community, of family, of friendship get so corrupted by money, by materialism, by individualism, by selfishness.
Christmas and the classroom are united by ritual. Ritual is important. Ritual is continuity, ritual is security, ritual is unspoken love, ritual is harmony, ritual is implicit – not the modern, tedious, explicit version – mindfulness.
Ritual is peace and harmony. Peace and goodwill to all mankind. Ritual makes the world go around. Ritual creates security; creates belonging. Belonging matters. We are nothing alone. We are everything together.
Ritual underpins the best of humanity, the best of community. Community matters. Community looks out for us. Community gives us purpose. Community gives us meaning. Christmas, like the classroom, is community, ritual and performance.
It is what you want it to be. It is what you make it.
Happy Christmas everyone. xxx